So my hubby and I have been together for 4.5 years and we used to be crazy in love and fuck every minute of the day. Now that we have settled into our relationship and lust is dwindling, he wants to try new things. Anal, bdm, aggressive sex. I'm cool with the rough sex and bdm but the butt stuff I'm not okay with and it seems to be bothering him. It's like he doesn't want to even have sex because he knows that is a line I won't cross. Is that even fair? I need advice on what to do. Do it try it to save our sex life? Do I refuse because I'm uncomfortable?